You hear some of the things happening nowadays and you wonder, what is happening? People have gotten used to stuff like dating married men, cheating, rape, stupid clout chasing, suicide etc. Apparently folks see things like these happening and think to themselves, ‘’Its happening anyway, why should I be the one to stop it..’’. How is any of these normal?!

Kamene Goro on her morning show the other day on Kiss Fm was talking of how some guy hit one her. She sed they were with her friends and a guy approached and started talking, they exchanged numbers afterwards. The next day the cliché ‘Good Mornings’ start pouring in, then the guy told her he has a girlfriend. Kamene in response told her to walk, she doesn’t do people’s boyfriends and husbands. The guy was like aty its not even that serious, maybe you are coming in to replace her. He also added that its normal since people are doing it.

Yes its happening but its not normal. If you are still in your hoe phase then don’t lie to someone’s son or daughter that you want to commit, knowing to well you will just waste their precious time. If you still want to smash around then do so, at least you are honest with yourself. I know a time will come that you will want something serious, however late it will be, bank on it you will want something stable someday.

Married men, those engaged and the ones in ‘serious’ entanglements, stick to your women. If you are in this stage and you still wana sleep around, hate to break it to you but you ain’t done with your hoe phase just yet. Be honest with you partner and tell you are not ready to commit just yet, were are not kids anymore nobody will beat you for speaking up. This is better than smashing your girlfirend’s besties and workmates. Think about how much you are risking her health; exposing her to STDs, UTIs and HIV. Its deeper than just respect, sometimes it’s a matter of keeping the one you love healthy and safe.

Currently young campus girls are sleeping with older married men for money. Yes! If it weren’t for the dough then would you even look at their tired faces twice? I have no problem with this because nobody can plan for you how to live your own life. But these kinds of entanglements make young girls love easy money, money they just have to spread their legs for. These are the girls who pressure their boyfriends to give them a lifestyle that even their own parents can’t afford. Some men have killed, stolen, been arrested while trying to make quick money to impress broke girls with expensive tastes. Most girls nowadays do doubles, a young guy for sexual satisfaction and an older guy for the money.

The other day I was on Xtian Dela’s instagram and I saw some chile who was claiming she had been raped by an artist, there was a video. But if you watch the video a couple of times then you will notice a lot of holes, most people were saying she staged managed it just for clout. A friend even sent a screenshot of her whats app status where she was seen posing happy and smiling. Apparently she was just seeking attention by claiming she has been sexually assaulted. This is an insult to rape victims, people have actually been assaulted and here she is making fun of it. This clout chasing this has really gone too far!

Look at Shakila for example, she went live on instagram naked and blamed it on alcohol. A teenager still in high school doing this, where her parents were is what a lot of people were asking. She is not alone, a lot of young girls do this just to get some attention. Has it ever occurred that they will be viewed as sex objects and nothing more because of what they do? I am not saying things like these are not happening but just rewind back like 10 years, unheard of. Some might blame technology for the change in behavior but a smartphone will not make you do something that you weren’t aready thinking about, in fact technology has always been used as a scape goat for irresponsible behavior.

Talking about technology, I might as well add alcohol to the list. Have you heard how people are quick to blame alcohol for their immature and stupid decisions? Some friend of mine told me that her boyfriend raped her and later blamed it on booze. No! Am sure the guy had already thought of doing this before, alcohol just presented the perfect moment to execute his plan.

A lot of stuff are happening which are far from normal, but I chose to focus on the ones that affect people’s sexual and social behavior. Again am not saying they are not happening, but are they normal?

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