We should really learn to respect people’s boundaries, however close you are with a person just know there is a line you should never cross. There is this thing called kuzoeana, sometimes we expect so much from people just because we are friends with them. A friend lends you money out of the goodness of his/heart then you take advantage of the same friendship and overstay with the cash.

There is this breed of men who love ‘free hugs’. You bump into your female friend with her man, you with your horny soul hug the chile so tightly like it’s the last hug you gon get. You forget that maybe her boyfriend doesn’t like how you are being touchy with her girl. Yes she is your friend but there is a way you can hug her without making her boyfriend jealous. Lust has clouded your mind so much that all you can think about is tight hugs, aty nihug vizuri, respect her space! If you love free hugs that much then go hug your girlfriend.

You are hustling in Nairobi and so you need a place to crash. A friend decides to host you for like one month as you touch base with the grind. Four months later you are still in his house using his towel, you mistook his kindness for naivety. You think just because he/she is your friend the he won’t have any problem with you extending your stay. Respect yourself for once, nobody likes a hang-on. 

It has become a tradition in most Kenyan party scenes to roast meat before drinking alcohol. You are in some club with your friends busy working on roasted goat meet, some guy who calls you a ‘friend’ comes to your table and starts picking pieces of meat without asking. They did not even bother to wash their hands or at least try to make a conversation with those already on the table. This is some stupid and misguided level of kuzoeana. This too can happen with booze, somebody just comes and start pouring from your bottle just because they know you. I have always sed if you are too broke to party just stay the F at home, imagine you won’t die.

Have you noticed these type of people who expect you to always have money? They borrow some dough from you and when you say you don’t have it, now you are stingy. Most of these people who are stable financially have some kind of plan to keep money flowing in their lives. They might have the amount you need but if they give it to you then they would interrupt their money flow. When they tell you to wait maybe they are waiting for a profit. Remember your friends also have their lives to deal with and bills to pay. Don’t expect your friends to always help when you ask for favors, understand that some things can’t be rushed. Aty I need 2k urgently, how can you need somebody else’s money urgently??!

You flirting with your best friend’s girl is a perfect example of boundaries not being respected. There are a lot of single and horny girls out here but you choose the one who is in a relationship with your bro. This is how you end up smashing her and destroy your friendship in the process, you might have well endorsed their break up. You should respect the fact that your friend has feelings for that girl but all you care about is your d**k. Grow up!

I don’t know what women find attractive about a cuffed nigga. These chiles have been ignoring since forever, you get a girl and suddenly they are madly in love with you. Especially if you are dating their friend, they will pretend they are happy for her but deep down they would spread their legs for you just to end things with her. Most women have some weird and dangerous kind of jealousy amongst themselves. I have one word for you, boundaries!  If you really care about your friend then don’t nose in on person stuff, there is plenty of cocaine to deep your nose in.

Sometimes people can be so nice to you that you mistake this kindness for stupidity. A lot of people like to take advantage of their friends because they feel entitled to them. You think just because am your friend that I will do anything for you, we should stop this backward mentality guys. Respect personal spaces, especially those of your friends. Never get used to somebody so much that you start disrespecting them.

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