Moving in together doesn’t always have to be the next step in every relationship, you can sleep in different beds and still love each other. Moving in with someone you are not yet married to is like walking on ice, trouble is always brewing. It means you will be sharing your personal space with this person, are you really ready for this? Stuff like bills, getting home time, chores and even habits will become an issue once you move in with your lover. Since you are around each other more then you will tend to disagree more and even notice the smallest details about them.

Let’s address the elephant in the room, bills. Since you are both living under the same roof there is always that question of who pays for what. If you were living alone and you still paid your own bills then this won’t be a problem for you once you move in. Men are naturally providers, we love to take responsibility especially with stuff like this but that doesn’t mean we don’t need help from time to time. With most couples, men are the ones who pay rent and maybe things like shopping, water and electricity. You as his woman should sometimes surprise him and pay for Wi-Fi and Netflix, maybe he doesn’t really need your help with it but trust me he will like it.

Sharing your personal space can be hard, you are coming home from your hustle in the evening, you just want to get a cold beer and watch something. But now this ain’t possible since you have somebody who has not seen you the whole day and she probably wana kiss you, hug you and just cuddle. It’s nice to have somebody to come home to but sometimes you just need that time to unwind and relax. This might not be an issue at first because you are still reveling at this new experience, but once you get used to it you realize on thing, if you don’t learn to accommodate your partner then the relationship won’t last.

They say old habits die hard, there are stuff you were used to doing when you stayed alone but now you can’t. These habits might not be noticeable but once you move in with someone they can easily see them. Most men just throw their socks anywhere, you try this when living with you are girlfriend, she will put them in the right place but until when? One day she will just get tired and complain, it’s a small thing but to them it’s different. Shoes, do you take them off at the door or just walk in. What about the dishes, do you take them back to the sink once you are done eating? How often do you shower? Are you always on your phone? You might be used to doing these things, but it irritates her.

When you are staying alone you can get home anytime you like because nobody will ask you where you were. Moving in however means someone will always be waiting for you to go home, and when you are late questions will be asked. Where were you? Why didn’t you pick my calls? Who were you with? Why are you late? Sometimes the questions are dropped all at the same time now you don’t know which one to answer first. You can’t even party in peace, if you are outgoing then moving in is the worst decision you can ever make. You will always be defending yourself, is it a relationship or a trial?

Moving in with someone is like a commitment, it’s not easy and if your relationship survives it then you are ready to face whatever life throws at you. A good woman has the ability to turn a house into a home, if you are lucky enough to have her then never let her go.

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